When Right is Wrong -

Hi Folks!

How is life?!

I want to share a couple of interesting insights from some Past Life Regression sessions I took in the last few months.

These two cases are to do with the man-woman relationship, what seems so right, and the painful question as to why, then, is it so wrong?

A young lady wanted to know why she was so much in love with a married man and unable to leave him.
They had met when he was single, but though he professed his love, he had gone ahead and married someone else.
They still met and he claimed to love her but was unwilling to upset his marital life in any way.
Her obsession with him had taken a toll on her career which was stagnant.

She went into three past lives in which she was happily married to him, they had loved each other to begin with, but in each, he had killed her.

Then she located the answer.

She saw them very much in love, getting married in a church.
They held each-other's hands and made a pact -

'We will always be together in every life-time'.

That past life had been fulfilling for both and she had died naturally, but in all the future ones, he had felt constricted as there had been no new learning and no growth.

Each time he had killed her, he had repented bitterly, but repeated the pattern because she would not let him go.
I asked her how her lives with him had been for her, and she said they had been wonderful - though she had suspected that he had been cheating on her.

What had been her purpose of life with him and how much of it had she achieved?
She scanned longer for this answer and had to admit that there had been no purpose and no growth at all.
 They were just meaningless, wasted lives in terms of learning as there were no challenges.

She agreed to free him from the pact. He apologized for killing her in those past lives.
When I progressed her to a few years later in this life, she saw herself married to a loving man and also doing well in her career.

Now for the other story.

A man came with simple questions about his career growth, promotions and money.
Satisfied with the answers he got, he wanted to see what his future probabilities were.

Five years from now, he had got his promotions and his son was in a wonderful job.

Ten years later - ?
His jaw dropped.

'There is someone else in my life' - he was shocked.
He had no problems with his wife, in fact, he had not mentioned her even remotely as an ' issue' to be resolved.

I told him to go to a past life with the lady who was coming into his life ten years later.
' She is a cow', he said, 'and I am her Master'.

She loved her master very much.
He gave her fodder and water because she gave very good milk which made him a lot of money.

I called them face to  face and made him (as he was in that past life) ask her to say whatever she felt.
Her answer was very touching -

'Sar pe kabhi haath nahin rakkha', she said.-
You never patted me on the head.
Never appreciated, never loved -

I made him feel what she felt and he was ashamed of his insensitivity.

He knelt and asked her forgiveness, hugged her and kissed her forehead and the gentle, large-hearted cow licked his face and forgave him.

After they had left, I asked him to go ahead again by ten years and check -
No affair.

I have told him to call me after ten years and tell me if he comes across any charming lady who could be his past life's four-legged friend!

Now for my insights!

According to my experience as a PLR Therapist, there seem to be many more women getting involved in affairs with married men than the other way round.

Each case has come out with unique circumstances for such behaviour and in each, the realization was to let go of the attachment / ego / vengeance / lust and become self - reliant, value yourself more, to learn to control your mind and be less self - indulgent.

If you were meant to marry someone, you would have.
If he is already married / in a serious relationship, it would be wise not to get involved even covertly.

The reason why someone gets attracted to you may not always be love.
It could be lust or power - play or comfort level, or plain genuine appreciation as in the case of the devoted cow.

Now imagine our man's reaction if a lady seems interested in him.
He would be in his late 40s, maybe balding a bit, has a paunch and wonders if women still find him attractive.
He would obviously forget his wife and children and take his chance, not knowing why the lady has come into his orbit.
The lady does not know either.
All that she would want is a pat on the back, a word of appreciation, some praise in front of colleagues.
She may have no intention of having an affair or breaking his marriage, but the man would not believe it.

One can argue about how loving a married man or someone else as a married man seems so right till the cows come home, it still does not make it so.
The payment for keeping another person from fulfilling his / her karmic choices with their spouse is pretty harsh.
It is not worth the secretiveness or excitement.

Go inside.
Know yourself, your core issues, what drives you, all that you are a slave of , people or things you cannot do without.

Meditate.
Believe in yourself, that you deserve someone better, who can belong only to you as you would to him / her.
Trust yourself , and love yourself.

Life is beautiful even more when you remove the attached strings.

Learn Enjoy Teach

Hi Folks!

This is the100 th Post!

It has been a wonderful journey of discovery for me.
The various questions and viewpoints coming from you added to my search and opened many more horizons.
I am so very grateful to all of you!

Isn't it wonderful to know for sure that we are much more powerful than we think we are?!
There is a sense of wonder and disbelief when one first learns this.

How can it be?
Aren't we meant to suffer the fruits of our own bad Karmas?
There is nothing that we can do but suffer silently - or vocally, but basically, we cannot change what we have come with -

This is a mindset which is pervasive in thousands and millions of us.
This feeling of helplessness and rage giving rise to abuse and violence.

In the Eastern countries, it comes down from thousands of years as a covenant which comes with one's birth like the colour of one's skin or caste.
In Western countries there were different opinions which did not go deeper because the concept of reincarnation was not believed in.

The end results were not very different.
One either did not lift a finger to change one's ' destiny ' or gave in to impulses and habit-patterns and messed up one's - and other people's lives.

There is a change, now, and good winds are blowing

It is liberating to know that we are bigger than all our problems put together.
That we are not helpless puppets being played cruelly by an angry or maybe-busy-elsewhere divinity.
That we have, as complete consciousness in all it's wisdom, have chosen our pain and obstacles to learn to overcome them.

Once this ultimate truth is digested, paths and solutions open up to help us achieve our life's purpose.
We become aware that we are on a wonderful journey with our chosen adventures, rides, riddles and thrills  thrown in.

We need to reclaim our trust in ourselves, our own power and divinity.
Let's carry on doing it!

Any lesson learnt becomes a natural part of us when we teach it by our own example.
So go on -

Learn, Enjoy and Teach !

Life is beautiful!

Love you all -

How to get Vispi's Book

Hi Folks !
How are you and how's life?


Time seems to be racing! In no time it's a week-end and then another week-end and then the month is gone!
We are already nearing May!


I do hope you have started to meditate at least for a few minutes.
Do a spring - cleaning, a pre - mid - year closure of all things painful or irritating.


In fact, do this every month.
If you meditate every day and distribute your peace and harmony at the end of it, you will not pile up the bruises and generate your own energy to be happy.


I had given the address of places to find Vispi and Ratoos's books a couple of years ago.
I am very happy to state that, that post is redundant now!
The books have all been compiled into a single one with the same name - ' The Laws Of The Spirit World ' and is readily available in most shops and on flipkart too.
It has also  been translated into Marathi - 'Jeevatm Jagache Kayade' and creating awareness on a bigger scale.
I hope it gets translated into all the languages.


I sat a month's Vipassana course in February this year and made a couple of discoveries.
They are right for me, but you may find them interesting too.


There are many layers to our thought.
We feel a thought comes, stays and goes.
Then another comes, stays and goes.
And so on.


We keep bobbing in these rapids, glad just to stay afloat.
But that's just the mind deliberately playing you like a puppet.
Thoughts are not linear, they come in a rush at times, at other times, in a fast flow!

Once you realize that ALL these thoughts only want to keep you away from your core issue, you can start to ignore them and go for the jugular. (your own) .


They succeed because we ourselves don't want to visit the painful. 
We put layers and layers of memories and dreams and thoughts on that hurt or loss or sadness and convince ourselves we are fine and others will also be fine.


If we are cheating ourselves, others will too.
People only react to the vibrations coming from you.


So, if you find yourself dwelling on something trivial or magnifying something you have no control on, stop right there.
It can be a scene in the office, a bereavement, someone's consistently nasty behaviour - go for the thorn below the pus.


Stay with it and slowly but surely, you will unravel it.
The reward is liberating, believe me.
I did it and am free of a lot of stuff I was carrying around needlessly.


Bye for now.


I got a nice comment from a new reader, thank you!
My e-mail is shubhadayeri@gmail.com


It's on the blog-profile too.


Send your questions and I shall attempt to answer them in the next post.


Take care
And meditate!

Questions on Life's Purpose

FRIDAY, APRIL 13, 2012

Questions on Life's Purpose

 Hi Folks !

How are you doing?

The last post has elicited a lot of interest and there are some nice questions.

It is a bit confusing, isn't it?
We are supposed to sit and chalk out our great plan for the coming life on earth after discussing with
 our spiritual guides and all the people who are going to be involved and yet, things seem to go so wrong!

Let's see the questions  -

1] We may have lived for millions of life times.
 For our example purpose, let us assume we have lived for 100 life times before.
 Out of these, it may be possible we have lived badly for 1 year period.
 Not straight, but in summation,a period of 1 year.
 Means we have 100 years of bad life in our basket. 
We have to erase this karma  to let know our true self. 


If we assume our current life time to be 100 years; we have to work day & night to cut this karma.
What is the solution to this?

This sounds very frightening, doesn't it?

And given the fact that we will make mistakes while living this life and working out that past karma too, which would bring us back to more life times, the future seems pretty bleak.

This question is so wonderful, because this is what most of us traditionally believe.

(Me too, once upon a time).

Then I became smart.
I did Vipassana.

Now read and reflect on this -

The first three stages of our human journey are connected with our fears, money and sex
and finally, power, will and emotions.

Please re-read the posts on Souls 7 stages, and all those on the Chakras.

Before taking birth, we decide which of our habit-patterns have become
detrimental to our progress,our evolution.

Is it our anger? Hunger for power? Lethargy? Making use of others? Lust?

We work it out and write our life's story.

The number of bad Karmas is not in hundreds, in fact, can be explained in a word -
Attitude.

Its like going to the super market with a big list - the items will vary from eatables to clothing to
 cleaning equipment to electronics and more.

What's common in all of these?
The wanting.

Similarly, in each lifetime, we choose which specific habit-pattern to get rid of and which one to
 strengthen.
Usually, one aids the other.

For eg, if I strive hard to control and eventually get rid of my short temper, at the same time, I have strengthened my patience, my understanding, maybe forgiveness and warmheartedness.

Also, along the way, I have also cleared my karmic debt with one or many.

When we graduate, we have the collective  knowledge from nursery to the college degree, don't we?
This is something like that.

2] In your last post how would that monk and that girl would have behaved so they wouldn’t have 
suffered in this birth or we can say that they have not taken this birth to be precise. 
I need to know their response in that life not this.

The monk, in that life, if he had really grown spiritually, should have understood the girl's hurt feelings 
and apologized for having caused it.

The girl , then, might have forgiven him, considering he had not gone after another girl, had truly gone
to become a Sadhu.

This would have gotten him out of the karmic loop from that life itself.

The girl should have gotten over her pain and anger and paid more attention to the man who loved her and actually married her.

Considering the monk was totally devoted to god right from the beginning, that he had not lied ot cheated her 
or used her in any way, she should have not taken his going away as personal rejection.

If she had not allowed her ego to get in the way, this karmic baggage would not have carried on at all, adding new layers in her life and his.


Does this make sense?!

3] Sometimes I feel that I should undergo a session on PLR, but the next moment I refrain thinking that  why shall I unearth something when everything is going alright in my life.  I have a question here:  Is PLR best suited for someone who is not suffering from problems in his current life?  Will it have any adverse effects on others who are leading a normal life till that point of time?  Have you encountered any cases where people have come to you just out of interest and then  after undergoing a PLR went into depression of some sort?  what is your suggestion to someone like me? The bestest reason for going into past lives is Curiosity! That's what I did, and learnt so much about myself! I list out 15 reasons - health, relationships, fears, phobias, purpose of life and then -  CURIOSITY, CURIOSITY, CURIOSITY - !! Many, many people come for a session without any problem at all. I send them off to 'a happy successful past life of skills ' or ' a random past life which would help you in some way now. They hit bull's eye most of the times, and go back all charged and excited. I have done over a thousand sessions and no one has gone into depression because of PLR. I swear ! Some closely held beliefs have been shaken, many egos have definitely been battered, eyes opened to the wonder of living and dying and finding oneself alive and complete - But depression? No. I would suggest you think it over and take a session ! See you sooner, next time. I am still getting used to the blog's new format,don't like this at all, so excuse the unintended  highlights in the answers and the eaten up words. Will figure out by next time! Love you all -

When the Purpose clashes

Hi Folks!

How's life been with you?

I came back from a month's Vipassana much, much wiser!

I shall write more on it in another post.

Let's see the comment first, and then let me share 2 fantastic sessions 2 people had some time ago.

The question is, 'How do you even know when the energy is being stolen or the other way round?'

If you feel yourself drained in someone's presence or even when thinking about them, dread meeting/spending time with someone, feel habitually irritable doing routine chores which should not be the case, you may be losing energy.

You can not be 100% sure until you find out specifically, but you can take precaution by meditating every day and topping up your own levels, letting go of anger or -ve feelings and doing Ho'oponopono.

Similarly, check if being overly inquisitive, bossy, overbearing, aloof, poor - me, talkative etc.

Are any or many of these traits a part of your own personality?

If yes, you steal from others.

Meditate regularly, and you will discover new, strong facets of yourself that you were not aware of.

We are usually a bit hesitant to go in and change ourselves.
Do it, the results will always be better than that horrible hair-cut you once ended up with!

Now for the 2 sessions connected to life's purpose and what does one do if they clash or become redundant?!

We chalk out a detailed plan of our life based on what we want to learn and more importantly, the wherewithal we have.

It's both a choice and agreement with the other people involved.

Nothing is by chance.

An old lady came to find out why her daughter-in-law hated her in spite of her loving her like a daughter.
She had gone through some honest introspection but could not locate where she was going wrong.
Her son too seemed to take very vicious and opposite viewpoint to whatever she did or felt and she was at her wit's end on both counts.

She went to a past life more than a thousand years ago, when there was a young man, 18-19 years old, completely devoted to Shiva.He had no other thought and did not even notice the pretty girl from the same village who loved him.

One day, he left for the mountains to meditate and came back after many many years as a great Yogi.
He stayed in the temple where he taught and healed and the whole village and the surrounding ones treated him with respect and affection.

The girl had been married by then, but she hated him with her whole being for having repulsed her love.

He was not aware, before or after, but her thoughts were focused on ''One day, you will love me and I will show you'.

The man who she married in that life knew of her love and was jealous, though he did not show it.

That Yogi was this old lady, the girl was her dil now, and her husband of past was also her husband now, and also the old lady's son!

During resolution, the Sadhu requested forgiveness for having inadvertently hurt the girl's feelings but she was adamant in holding on to her hatred.

The Spiritual Master tried to explain the consequences of holding on to such harsh feelings, but she said she did not care.

Her husband, the old lady's son, wanted to support his wife and appease his own jealousy at the same time.

At this point, the old lady decided to just love her dil more, now that she knew the reason.

I next took her to a past life with her son and she went to one when, again, she was his mother.

She had married her husband in spite of great opposition from her wealthy family members who were convinced he was a vagabond.
Soon enough, in spite of her devotion, he left her for other women.

She could not cope with it and became extremely bitter. In her anger against him and the poverty she had to face, she neglected to mentally support her 12 year old son who was also hurting.

He grew up lonely, angry and almost friendless.

The only male friend he spoke to was a young man who understood his anger but also played with his emotions by teasing him and hurting him.

That's her dil in this life!

The son did not marry in that life. He studied, worked hard and built a big house for his mother.
Though there wasn't much of a communication between them, he took care of her.

She realised her mistake and tried to make up by loving him in later years, but it was too late.

Though the son wanted her to live in comfort, she went back to her hut to die.

The old lady understood all these facets which had created this big mess in her current life.

In the cave, when she requested forgiveness from her son, he did so reluctantly.
He would take care of her in this life, but there would be no love or support.

Now for her BIG lesson after seeing the second past life.

She came to the conclusion that it was her immense love for her dil which was actually turning into petrol in the dil's fire of revenge.

Just like her own Purpose of Life had been to return the girl's love and heal her hurt, the girl's purpose was to throw the love back and hurt her.

That the young man was on a spiritual path or had no idea about her love cut no ice with her.

It was the ego which had been insulted and there would be no excuse.

Having asked her son's forgiveness again, the old lady cut her cords from both of them and wished them good luck.

She felt at peace and is pursuing her own path of spirituality.

This was the first time I saw how the purpose of life can become detrimental to our growth if we fail to take off the blinkers of convenience and poor-me energy stealing, in this case.

Along with Karma, this lady used her Free Will to ensure her own peace of mind and growth.


The second case is still in progress and truly complicated!

A lovely young girl came to find out if she would be able to marry the boy she loved.
They came from different religions.

When he'd mentioned wanting to marry her, the boy's father had had a heart attack and the mother had threatened to consume poison.

The path of true love!

She went into a past life when she was the only darling child, a daughter of her parents.

She had fallen deeply in love with a 'young man of loose character' but was convinced that he was the only one for her and that her love would change him.

She had eloped with him.He'd pretended to mend his ways for a while, but had gone back to his womanizing.

She was only 17 then, and unable to take the hurt, had hung herself from the ceiling.

Seeing their dear daughter hanging, dying so young over 'that useless fellow', both the parents blamed themselves and swore they would 'never let this happen again'.

And they aren't!

They are his parents in this life and will fight this marriage tooth and nail!

It was difficult for this girl to digest this and one can't blame her!

One way out is for the boy to see that past life in a session, in the Master's presence,ask those parents 's forgiveness and convince them that he would truly love her and take care of her in this lifetime.

But of course, he does not believe in this mumbo-jumbo!

That's life!

As we have chalked it!

And really, when it does not turn out the way we want, who do we blame?!

Have a great fortnight and mull over your life!

Enjoy the drama!

You have created it!

Beware of Energy Stealers

Hi Folks!

How has the new year been, so far?

Thoughts make things, so let your thoughts be happy, cheerful ones.

There are some questions, let me answer one today.

1. I was quite surprised to know at the possibility that someone can steal our energy and may not return for ages until we claim it back. It was a wonderful revelation and gave me another direction for learning.

This post has really provoked me to think as to who on earth might have done this to me and also, whose energy I might have stolen. I am unable to know that as I know so many people and it is hard to find out who it is. I tried to push my thinking a lot but could not find any answer.

Would you advise connecting to my spiritual guide during meditation and ask him? I am apprehensive because at times, my own logic tries to play some role during my chat with him and I become confused as to if it is actually he who is speaking those words or that's my brain who is trying to insist. I cannot differentiate between the two.

This is really a wise, aware person!

Let me add to my last post. I had a severe attack of sneezing a week after my stolen energies were recovered.I meditated and found that the same two were trying to sneak some back again.

I had to be stern, cover myself with white light and request my spiritual guides to protect me.
Since then,I have not been troubled again.

Now for this question.

It is not possible to pin-point who could be stealing one's energy without detached guidance as the mind would be biased against certain people in this life. A Past Life Regression session would help in locating the energy - stealer, view the situation which caused this and then complete the energy exchange.

But if a session is not possible, what does one do?

Awareness is the key. First make sure that you yourself are not leaning heavily onto someone for emotional or any other kind of support.

That you are not an energy stealer in the form of an Intimidator, an Interrogator, a Poor - Me, Aloof,an Over doer,an Interrupter and so on!

If you find yourself with one or more of these traits,which we all do, anyway, try to get rid of them. Each time you steal from someone, you leave yourself wide open for someone powerful to thwack from you.

Get your own energy from the Universe.

MEDITATE.

Its the only clean and powerful way.

Let me give you an example of how this drama unfolds in our unsuspecting lives.

A man came to find out how he could help his business partner who was spiralling down the 'drink - bash - up wife, cry in morning - repeat' drama.He was ready to do anything to put his partner back on his feet.

In his past life, he saw himself as someone who lived in a middle class housing society, who was held in high esteem by neighbours. He had a plot of land which he wanted to sell but it was stuck for a long time.

His partner in this life was a small time local politician who maintained an army of bad characters and helped him sell it. Though the deal was legal, he kept visiting our man and telling everyone how he had helped him. Our man,out of his sense of gratitude and slight fear because he was a crook, had to keep quiet.

He realized that in this life too there was an element of fear deep in his mind.

During the session when I asked him to claim his own energy, the partner refused, fearful, angry and reluctant to give. I asked him to demand it and later, asked him to return any of his partner's energy if he was carrying it.

He said, there is a huge black cloud coming out and going into him. He felt lighter and better and was feeling so after a fortnight too, when I checked with him.
The partner claimed to feel weak, but now our man has wisened up!
He realised that there was really no need to take responsibility of another's life which any way made them behave more irresponsibly.

Energy stealing is a fact, it is nothing to get terrified about and also not something to be sneezed at, if I may say so!

I shall answer the other questions in the next post which will be in the third week of March.

I practice what I write about!

I am going for a 30 - day Vipassana course.

Be happy.

Meditate.

Give joy and gratitude every day.

Take care.

Return To Sender

Hi Folks !

I hope the New Year has begun well for you.

I once got a beautiful card from a dear and wise friend.

It said, 'Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Enjoy it'.

In whatever 'To do'lists you make, let'Enjoy Today' be on top.

The rest will fall in its proper place.


I attended a Past Life Regression Therapists's workshop a couple of months ago and understood much more about healing.

Let me share it with you.

You would be aware, and more so if you have been following my posts, that all of us are energy beings in physical bodies.

Read the posts on Energy Stealers' again.

And again if need be, so that you remain aware all the time.

There are times when you realize that you feel drained and tired, mentally and emotionally fatigued.

You would probably be able to rattle out the 'common-sense' reasons too, but let us look at something else.

I will illustrate with my own example.

I suffered from Hay Fever for many years. I tried Ayurveda, Homeopathy, Allopathy, varying my diet and taking precautions from dust from March to October.

Nothing helped, and I had to take 2 anti-allergent every day for these 5-6 months.

Being a PLR Therapist, I knew there was an emotional seed sown long ago, but in spite of undergoing sessions and removing some apparent causes, the allergy stayed.

For example, in one past life as a young boy of 12-13,I had unexpectedly stumbled upon dacoits distributing their loot. As I was old enough to recognize them, they had killed me by rubbing my face, my nose on dusty ground as they strangled me.

My sneezing reduced slightly after that session but came back in no time.
This was 2 years ago.

Two months ago, after the PLR Convention and understanding more about how varied, deep and frightening the effects of stolen energy can be,I underwent 2 sessions which were conducted differently.

As the session unfolded, I saw someone who had stolen a huge amount of my energy hundreds of years ago and refused to give it back when I asked for it.

This person, as I could see, had stolen from all those who were closely related or were underlings and was completely dependent on it.

There was utmost reluctance, shock and fear when I demanded mine back and though it took time, I held my ground strongly until I got my energy back.

I thought that would be all, but there turned out to be another person who had intentionally stolen out of spite and there was quite a drama when I reclaimed.

It took a week for my new energy pattern to settle.
Both tried to grab it back, but I covered myself with white light and they faded.

I am now completely cured of Hay Fever.

It's still January and I should be taking 2 pills a day, feeling dull and lousy, out of sorts and irritable.

I have not taken a single pill in the last month and a half though I keep them handy.

I have started clearing such energy thefts from my clients and the results are very good.

A man came wanting to know why he felt so responsible for his colleague to the extent that he would defer his own family commitments.

He was really tired of it, felt drained of energy in this man's presence who was on a downward spiral, but seemed helpless to break away.

He went into a past life when this colleague had been a petty muscleman and helped him to push a deal which was legitimate but which was stalled.

The muscleman had kept up his 'friendship' as it legitimized him in the neighbourhood and our man could do nothing about it out of fear and obligation.

When I asked him to check the 'colleague's spirit body for any trace of his own energy,he was shocked at the amount.

The 'colleague' was obviously unwilling to return but he sternly told him to find the eternal source and access from there.

I next asked him to return if hecarried any from that man and he was now shocked to see a biggish cloud of dark energy go into that colleague.

I directed him to cover himself with white light to act as a shield which would deflect all negativity coming his way, right back to the sender.

Ignorance of who we truly are and what holds us back from our evolution is not bliss.

It is time to get out of our comfort zones and learn to meditate, to cleanse our spirit as we do our body.

Discard false notions of chivalry or martyrdom and do not carry baggage which belongs to someone else.

It is their lesson to learn, and if you interfere by being too nice or too gentle merely to get out of speaking out the truth, you mess up this whole life for both of you.

After reclaiming my energy and returning all the arrows of anger/hatred/jealousy coming my way right back to the sender, I feel calm and healthy and balanced.

One of my two tormentors is alive, the other died many years ago, but my stolen energy would have forced us to take rebirths until I reclaimed it.

I am glad that in this context,I have got rid of one cause of my rebirth without sowing seeds of new ones!

Awareness is the key.

Examine yourself, your relationships, all the things you avoid facing.
Face them one by one and get rid of them

Believe me, I speak from experience, Life is so much lighter!

Leaving Time Behind

Hi Folks!

How have you been?

It's been quite a while and I thank you for your concern.


These last few weeks have been of introspection.

Of watching myself to check how I am coping.

There are good times and bad times and a few very bad times.

So I suppose it's okay!


I have been travelling, attending workshops and learning new things which I will share with you in the next post.


This is also the last post of this year.

A time for closure and new beginnings.

Do you remember we had done a powerful exercise, I think it was last year.

Let us do it again, for 2011.



Sit down somewhere and concentrate on your breath for a few moments.

Let your mind become calm.

Sounds around you may seem to get magnified at first, ignore them.

They will recede.

Imagine yourself standing in a beautiful open space, in nature.

There is warm sunlight, blue sky and a gentle breeze.

There is a big plastic bag in front of you and now, extend your hands over it.


Go back over the month of December and whatever were the bad situations, those of sadness, anger, jealousy, depression, dejection, hatred, helplessness, defeat - all that was negative, let it come out of each and every cell of each and every part of your body and flow right into the plastic bag.

If you wish, you could count from 1 to 5.

Take a calm breath or two and relax.

Extend your hand again and repeat for all the other months.

At the end, extend your hand and receive a burning torch.

Throw it right into the plastic bag.

Let it burn, the flames may rise high, eventually it will be reduced to a couple of small piles of ash.

Blow hard on it and see it fly, turn into golden dust of happiness, wisdom, success and disappear right over the horizon.

Wherever it falls, it will now fall in its new qualities.

Now let there descend a beam of golden light from the sky and go right into you, filling all the blank spaces in each cell.

This is the light and warmth of wisdom, forgiveness, happiness, bonding, success - all that is positive.

Fill yourself up.

Once you have absorbed what you need, it will bless you and withdraw.

Thank the Universe and open your eyes after a moment.


Now you are ready for the new year!

And 2012 is going to be a fascinating year.

The most important skills for you to have and master are patience, forgiveness, of letting go,giving and being grounded from deep within.

Being calm by pushing things down will not help at all as it will make one blow up at the most inopportune time.

Learn to meditate and practice regularly.

Stay connected to yourself.

Enjoy!

Consciously, give your gratitude to Mother Earth.

In the new year's post, I shall share some of the fascinating new things I learnt in the last couple of months.

Take care -

A First Timer's Vipassana -

Hi Folks -

How are you?

Life is a roller coaster, isn't it?!

Lets take up an interesting question first -

'What makes you feel death is simple or routine?'

I don't remember exactly where I used these words, in which post, in what context, but I will answer to the best of my ability.

Whether one believes in after-life or not,treating death as a commonplace occurance will put it in a proper perspective.

Many of us usually don't think about it, or believe that whether one is good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, holy or unholy, death is going to come anyway, so why change what we are comfortable with?

This thought is treacherous and makes one complacent.

It is good to remind oneself to -

1.Periodically cleanse oneself from inside.

2.Declutter the mind.

Deep meditation does exactly that, so when death of a dear one happens, one can regain one's balance fast enough to not to slide into helplessness and depression.

Here,I am very happy to share a wonderful and brave person's account of first Vipassana course.

I am reproducing the mail with permission -


'Doing Vipassana during those 10 days was amazing.

Surely, I went through my uneasiness, nausea feeling, body pain and getting up at 4:00 a.m. in the morning was another pain but the end results were dramatic.

I still remember how disturbed I was when I went for the course and everytime I was praying that I should get all my questions answered at the end of the course.

I got all the answers one by one during the course itself.

I realised that I am short tempered, impatient, lazy, jealous, judgemental and what not and I needed to work on that.

I slowly started feeling very peaceful inside.

I don't know what was coming out of my body that I also started feeling lighter.

During that course many other things came out.

All the good and bad memories which affected me at some point of my life also came out about which I had never given any thought before and when they came up, I realised that there are many lessons to be learnt from them.

Not only that, many of my likes and hobbies which I wanted to pursue started pushing me from inside and stressed me to make some concrete decisions.

I immediately decided that I will take up photography seriously (which was a dormant hobby since my childhood), will learn guitar, dancing, swimming and horse riding.

I became much more serious about taking the six day training on past life regression therapy from Dr. Newton.

I also got a message that I should leave my present job and do what I want to do in Finance.

On the 11th day, when I was out, I felt I am the most peaceful person on the earth.

Within the next two days, I searched the internet for a good weekend photography course.

I found that and booked it as soon as the enrollment opened.

Also, I am losing more weight so that I can wear a swimming trunk and also ride a horse (right now the horse won't take me on its back and no swimming costume is available of my size!).

But that was what effort I am putting after coming back.

You will be amazed to know what is automatically happening in my life.

I am not angered at any provocation, not accumulating any stress about anything, even though I don't like my job, I am not agitated if I am unable to do any work and going office on time (which I haven't done in the last one year), not reacting if anything is not going as per my wishes, enjoying driving now (earlier I liked driving, now I love it!), not finding fault with others, not nagging and complaining about my life and many many things more.

I can't believe that only one Vipassana course has changed me so much!!

Earlier life was beatiful, now life is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Now, I feel that I am empowered to solve my own problems.

I am surprised at my changed attitude so much that I cannot even recognise myself.

I don't know what would have happened to me if you would not have shown me the real mirror image of myself and suggested Vipassana to me.

I was actually on the path of self-destruction.

Through this entire time, the most surprising discovery I made was about myself.

It is not that someone hates me and does not like me, the truth is that I hate them and my own hatred was bothering me.

And that is why even after achieving so much in my life, I was never happy.

A thanks to the power of infinity for putting me on the right path otherwise I don't know what I would have done with my life.'


Wonderful, isn't it?!

This sure takes courage.

Living with yourself as the 'real' you starts to emerge,throwing away the negativity with determination and learning to be equanimous -

It takes will power. And Vipassana teaches you how to retrieve it from where it is hidden inside you and teach you to use it forever.

One is never short of self-esteem and self-confidence once one completes a course because one understands oneself and knows exactly how to improve without depending on any outside agency.

So do it!

You will enjoy meeting yourself!

Bye for now -

Coping With Death

Hi Folks -

Thank you for your support.

I have absorbed all your wishes and affection and feel stronger.


I made a humongous discovery when Shri, my husband left his body.

Death can truly be a smilestone in our long journey.

While alive on earth, we can read, research, meet people who had a near-death-experience and listen to what they went through to add to our knowledge.

In short,if we do not harm another in words and deeds,if we follow the basic laws of good conduct, we avoid the lower realms after death.

I understood all that and was sure I was prepared for death.

After all, it is something wonderful and I just 'go ahead'.

Now I know the subtle but important difference -

It is my own death that I am prepared for.

But the death of my dear ones?

It took a moment or two to get my balance.

The absence of physical presence,the routine phone-calls when away,is painful.

Shri's death was was unexpected, without any real warning, so it took me some time, but now I am okay.

As I had mentioned in my last post, Vipassana helped tremendously.

Read the posts on it, the one on Metta too, and you will understand.

To those grieving for someone/something lost, when you feel overwhelmed,become aware of your breath and follow it for a few times.

Now I speak from experience. We truly live only one breath at a time, so concentrate on it, be aware of it.

Feel your heart-beats a few times, they will slow down.

When thoughts and memories of fights or harsh words or anger come, let them, along with your awareness of your breath.

It is not as difficult as it seems.


Nithyashanthi conducted a Prayer Meeting for Shri.
Google Nithyashanthi to find out more about this wonderful wise soul.

It was very calming and peaceful.

He first explained that the meeting was for us, as Shri had moved to a space of bliss - was probably playing golf there too!

He said, 'A breath has no beginning and no end. A day has no beginning and no end. Life too, similarly, has no beginning and no end.'

He narrated a couple of anecdotes, about what goes with us when we die.

It is not the position, possessions,wealth,or even loved ones.

It is just one's own good deeds and good thoughts that elevate or pull down in the journey beyond.

We gave a lovely white stone to over a hundred people who were present and Nithya asked them to think of a good quality of Shri's which they liked and asked them to try to bring it in themselves.

The stone would remind them of this.

People came and spoke about Shri, and from his oldest and closest friend onward, his childhood, college days, his career in the army from his senior's and junior's point of view, his friends - his whole life got covered!

Many more came and spoke to us about his wonderful qualities and even we, the family, came to know so much more about him than we did earlier!

Death teaches a lot.

Love, bonding, humbleness, gratitude, courage - and letting go.

Go within.

Relax in the silence and top up.

Breathe.

And start again.

It's the Festival of Lights now.

Keep the spirit burning.